Like, "My Type"

OhMyPassion had a FABULOUS post back in the summer about how our “type” tends to shift based on the guy we are currently interested in. Physically, I’d say I couldn’t agree with her more. [Or, maybe I just don’t have a type physically.]

I’ve actually LIKED three guys in the past year. One had dark hair and a slim build. One had short LIGHT brown hair and a stockier build. And one had reddish-brown hair and I guess the body of an average guy in terms of height/weight/muscle.

Really if you put the three of them in a line, they couldn’t look more different. I could EVEN give you a nice sampling of accents/home states/alma maters with these three amigos… but that’s probably derived from my indifference about the DC area and fascination with other parts of the country. My bad.

I’d say there are two common threads with these boys:

• They are all quite smart.
• Our personalities click really well. I’m able to joke around very easily with all of them.

So they say that opposites attract. Is it bad that at the end of the day, I think I want to date someone similar to me? Like, I THINK THAT’S MY TYPE! Not physically… I actually stray away from guys with red hair. But…

• I like to joke around. It is really important to me that a guy makes me laugh. I want to date a guy that picks the stupid comedy. NOT the movie I have to concentrate super hard to follow.
  
  
  

• I like working out. It’s important to me that a guy likes to do this too. MAJOR brownie points if he likes running/endurance sports. But as long as physical activity is a part of his life, it’s cool.

• I like watching sports. I grew up that way. I was allowed to stay up late to watch the Chicago Bulls and Utah Jazz go at it. The New York Yankees post-season games. The Super Bowl. And the Olympics. Maybe that’s why I like sports so much, originally they were my ticket to a later bedtime?! Identical team loyalties aren’t so important to me. Just watching “big games” needs to be on his priority list. Somewhere along the lines I was convinced by my dad and brother it needed to be on mine.
  
  

• This is sort of a sub point but if a guy doesn’t like beer (and he drinks)…it’s def an eyebrow raiser.

• I’m smart. (Well, I get that a lot.) OhMyGoodness suggested I buy this shirt from Forever21. It’s hilarious and …pretty true. I LOVE NERDS SO MUCH…er…guys that are slightly nerdy.

In some ways I feel disgustingly Oprah-ish having this list. But…then I read it…and it couldn’t be farther from an episode of Oprah. Saying I like it when guys like comedies, working out, sports, beer, and are slight nerds doesn’t sound like impossible standards. It sounds like something Oprah would say I needed to change in order to “live my best life.” Good thing she’s going off the air……..I have a feeling Oprah’s and my own idea of best life couldn’t be more different.

• At the end of the day, I care about other people. And THAT trait needs to be there too. I’m going to be super frustrated if a guy doesn’t. And in my mind this is THE real relationship deal breaker. I know caring guys exist. So I’m not going to settle for an asshole.

Obviously, I don’t want to have IDENTICAL interests with a guy. The "girly" side of me likes shopping, dressing up, dancing, The Hills, and Britney.

But, the more I have in common with a guy… the more excited I get. He likes Country music too! He likes the beach! The Yankees are his favorite team! He loves airports! He SERIOUSLY buys dinosaur chicken nuggets? I thought I was the only one who bought dinosaur chicken nuggets…

And I guess I just don’t know if my way of thinking is something that goes along with a typical guy’s mindset. Generally, do guys like it when girls have common interests? Is that exciting to them? Or is it more interesting for them to find a girl with completely different tastes?

Maybe part of the reason I want to find a guy with similar interests is because I don’t believe in changing someone. I think it’s just easier to find someone who likes the same sort of things than hanging out with someone who thinks their own preferences are better than my own. I’m all for trying new things…but… if the guy isn’t and we’re really different…how is that fair?

Okay, so you readers MUST have an opinion on this. Are you more for opposites attracting or common interests? The obvious answer is a combination of both. But, which way do you lean more strongly?