I've never really been one for dating rules. Honestly, I think a lot of it is just common sense and that's why I like this post from Nate Bagley on the,
Five Things that Ruin a Date:
- Texting – Hello phone addicts! You know who you are. You’re the people who suffer from text-induced carpel tunnel at age 19. You can’t go through a 50 minute class without conspicuously holding your phone under your desk, irritating those around you with the tickity-tack of your cell phone keys.
If the vibration of the phone in your pocket (or purse) is so overwhelmingly important that you just can’t help reaching for it mid-sentence to respond to your roommate’s message with a big “OMG! LOL! I know!” you have a problem. That problem is called “You have no class.”
Once, I left my phone at home when I went on a date. Guess what happened. My head exploded. No, not really. Nothing happened and the date was great. I dare you to do it.
- Talking about past (or present) relationships – We’ve all been hung up on an ex before. Breakups are rarely enjoyable. Getting over a past love is hard. However, a date is not the place to look for sympathy, therapy, or whatever else it is that you need.
The best way to get over an ex is to move on. That means leaving them behind, not bringing them along as the conversational third wheel on your date. The last thing I want to hear about as we chat over a plate of Gnocchi and unlimited breadsticks at the Olive Garden is how your ex just didn’t appreciate you for who you are, and that’s why you had to break up with them and put yourself back on the market. SHUDDER.
- The Marathon Date – Get it out of your head that a date has to last longer than six hours! If your date ends before midnight, it’s not a failure; it’s actually quite refreshing. Not only that, but it leaves your prospect potentially wanting more of you, and not less. Remember, less is more.
- Talking about yourself – You shouldn’t be dating to prove to others how awesome you are. If you are, you’re a tool and nobody likes you anyway. Get over yourself. Ask your date questions that require more than a yes or no answer. Then, more importantly, listen to their answers! It’s amazing how far this little gem of advice will get you.
- Personal grooming and appearance – As Mason Jennings puts it, “it’s the little details that derail your dreams, as simple as it seems. The separate little things that you should have done define your life, honey, one by one.” Fellas, if your nose looks like the latest addition to the Chia Pet collection, and the back of your neck looks like it could benefit from a couple passes with a lawnmower, you need to take five minutes and do some man-scaping.
What do you think? Anything you would add or take away? Leave your thoughts in the comment section!
3 comments:
Hrm, I think I would agree with the general idea of the five things on his list, but you know what, if you really like the person...you wouldn't write them off for committing one of the blunders....
I think the main thing that ruins a date is when the other person is clearly NOT into you. Which could surface through texting or not caring about their appearance. Or not until lack of another date...
I definitely agree with the texting, although ladies I would still have your phone with you...just in case. :)
My first date with my now husband went well into the night - like 3 a.m. I remember thinking "please leave my house!" But we ended up getting married so I'm not sure what that says.
Yes. Thank you. Try leaving your phone at home. YOU WILL NOT DIE.
If you want to argue for emergencies, I'd be willing to guarantee that not only does your date have a cell phone, but every person within whispering distance as well. If you need to call 911, someone will be able to.
Or, if you'd feel safer having it in case your car dies and you're alone, then keep it in your car during the date. Or zipped up in your purse. Just don't touch that damn cell phone during your date. Remember when we DIDN'T have cell phones?? WE ALL SEEMED TO LIVE AND BREATHE.
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