I met one of those guys at work last week. I call him Schmoozer Mark. He's from our DC office, so he isn't around much, which is why I was surprised when he came up to me and told me he remembered seeing me from a work party the week before. Naturally, I was flattered. A cute, confident guy noticed me! He asked me all these questions, seemed interested, etc. When I told him my position, my boss, who was sitting right there, also told him about my semi-promotion I had just received, adding,
"And you can't have her."
Now whether she meant professionally or personally, I don't know, but I have a feeling it was almost a warning to me. Anyway, I left our meeting with the thought I'd never want to date him, but would let him take me out to dinner because I had the feeling he would pick an expensive restaurant.
Flash forward - btw, that show is so not as good as LOST, but I digress - to yesterday, where there was another party that I knew he would attend. I knew I was interested in him, but I was tempted to go partly because he would be there; who isn't flattered by attention? I had to finish up some work first, so I arrived when the party had already gotten under way. And there he was, flirting with an intern (who is actually older than I am). He was making a big deal of her to one of the bosses. And there I was, feeling quiet, somewhat insignificant, and not too surprised. I knew he was that type - I labeled him Schmoozer Mark the minute I met him.
I had a light bulb moment: why do I care that he's not paying attention to me when I'm not actually attracted to him? I don't like his personality, he's too loud, and he's not even that cute. What is it about that schmooziness that some guys possess that makes girls go weak at the knees? I guess it's the confidence - or rather over confidence - that can be attractive. But, ugh, he's just too much.
So I've changed my mind. I would not go out to dinner with him, even if it was to an expensive restaurant. Instead, I'll just let that nice boy in HR take me to a good ol' football game.
4 comments:
uhhh you go to work parties?? jealous. sort of.
We all want attention and we all want to be a guy's number one pick, even if he's not ours. It's just the way the world works. Glad you had the epiphany, though :)
There have already been three parties since I've been there... champagne and cake on birthdays for the higher ups... wine on Friday afternoons... steak and potatoes yesterday! It gets pretty crazy on the fifth and sixth floors :)
I left our meeting with the thought I'd never want to date him, but would let him take me out to dinner because I had the feeling he would pick an expensive restaurant.
Favorite line ever, even though you changed your mind at the end.
OhMyHeart is right though, it's allll about the attention. Whether or not we'd like to admit it, we love attention, we like to be noticed, we like to be "special." But you're right, we don't need to get all crazy and worked up to be noticed by someone we don't even like.
Great epiphany, OhMyFancy thanks for sharing, it's a good reminder ;)
Boy from HR sounds nice.
So because Schmooze was flirting with the intern, if he asked you to dinner you would say no? I'd say just proceed with caution. Although he does sound annoyingly cocky.
But the reality of life is that until things are exclusive with someone you are dating...there's a good chance they are flirting(and more) with others when you aren't around. You just witnessed it...
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