I've got an alpha female complex.
I'm totally NOT an alpha female – OhMyHeart can vouch for that after watching me bow down to my intimidating roommates for a year when she lived with me. I am: a delicate flower. I am NOT: girly.
Blllleeeeeecccchhhhh, GIRLY. The word makes me nauseous. I've been fighting through my pre-teen, young woman, college gal and now ProYo years to make sure I was never described to people as short, brunette and GIRLY.
But then, bout a week ago, a coworker asked me: What's so wrong with being girly?
Hmm. It made me think. Is it bad?
Of course being a materialistic cake-face is undesirable, but it made me realize that perhaps I should be embracing my femininity. It's easier than fighting it; or rather it's easier than fighting the media.
In the last few months my most viewed television shows have been Project Runway and Say Yes to the Dress. It's shameful. In fact, I think you are the first ones to whom I've confessed; I usually just go on and on about The Office and Flight of the Concords whenever TV shows come up in conversation, when really I could be gushing to you about the cut, designer and PRICE of the most fabulous wedding dress I saw on TLC the other day.
So now, another question: Is it my fault, or the media's?
All the great women are the classic combo: they can kick ass in a contest of athleticism but in their free time they wouldn't be caught dead without their D&G sunglasses. And I want to be like them, but I'm having a hard time fusing the two personalities. If I talk about the new shoes I bought and how cute they are I will be stigmatized but if I only talk about how many miles I ran yesterday, I'll be bored. Oy Vey.
And the sad thing is, this is all based on my fear that some day I will be on one of those Real World/Road Rules challenges on TV and be a weak competitor. I hate the media.
3 comments:
Haha you're not an alpha female on certain issues - the ones you're unsure about. Which is good. There are too many people in the world who are SO CONFIDENT in their opinion and fight you on it, when they have no idea what they're talking about.
But you stand up very successfully for the list of things you are passionate and knowledgeable about :)
"All the great women are the classic combo: they can kick ass in a contest of athleticism but in their free time they wouldn't be caught dead without their D&G sunglasses." -OMP
This is Hollywood in a nutshell!
I think I strive NOT to be high-maintenance. Girly and high-maintenance CAN go hand and hand. Typically the girls who are high-maintenance are girly. NOT ALWAYS. And, I like dressing up...which is girly...but I'm capable of happily hanging with the guys.
Anyway, I guess my point is...just be you. Talk about the cute shoes you bought AND how far you ran. If you want to.
A girl who is sure of herself is probably one of the most attractive qualities to a guy. And the more you feel like you can be your "true self" [girly or not] around a guy...the more of a winner he is.
I think the great thing about life is that you can be many things - it's possible to be girly and love sparkly dresses, but also like football and military history (my personal mix). I can go on and on about styles of wedding dresses (shout out to Say Yes to the Dress) and then complain about the subjectiveness of the BCS rankings in NCAA football.
So just be yourself and embrace your inner girly-ness if it wants to shine! :)
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