About a month ago, I started working at a gym. And wouldn’t you know, a 19 year old I work with seems to have a crush on me. He visits me on my shifts and told me he thinks I’m “really hott”…….
In my mind I was like “Um, you can’t drink legally.”
But, obviously I’m not going to be mean to him. Talking to him does help the time to pass by too. Except when things get awkward.
Like today, I told him a guy who is a “6” doesn’t really have to try too hard at my alma mater, because of the skewed guy-to-girl ratio in the guys’ favor. I did not have a 6 in mind as I made that statement. He was a hypothetical, kind of cute, kind of boring guy. Who would end up getting a lot of attention from girls because there just aren’t enough guys to go around.
This led to the 19 year old asking me, “So what would you rate me?”
Uhhhhhh...
- Hadn’t thought about it
- I don’t really rate guys I know. The few guys I’ve actually liked in the past year I don’t want to give a number based strictly on looks. That’s too weird for me. I’ll be real and say those guys are NOT a 10. But I know I’m not a 10 either. And that’s that.
My younger brother has a policy that he will not rate any girl who asks him. He says it’s a loaded question and only leads to bad things. I told the 19-year-old about my brother’s policy and said I was going to follow it as well. I think he had to go workout or something and I luckily got out of that conversation.
I filled OhMyHeart in on this dodged bullet, and she said that she felt like the stereotype of guys was to overuse numbers saying things like:
"Oh, she's a 7, I would never date anything below an 8." I think my brother’s policy is only when girls ask him. I’m sure he partakes in the rating system when having “guy talk.”
I do know for a fact there are two camps, and guys pick one of the two:
- A ten does not exist in everyday life. It’s Jessica Alba, Megan Fox hott.
- Guys that would describe girls they meet as 10s
Clearly, guys from each “camp” are not using the same scale. And when there are only 10 numbers to choose from eliminating one of them shifts a girls rating around quite a bit.
We speculated that when guys rate girls they ignore personality completely and go with a rating system based on:
- Trimness
- Boob Size
- Face
I have to admit, that equation works in my favor. I’m petite but actually have boobs. SCORE. Is it the real one though?
And trimness—that can range from bones to curvy/fit.
Height is not taken into account — and some guys love long legs and others love short, tiny girls.
Then what about guys who like the “All American Look” versus “Exotic.”
And what would you classify red heads as? Just wondering ;)
OhMyHeart and I both agreed that personality is a huge factor in datability/girlfriend material. So how much stock do guys put in the rating system anyway?
Then OF COURSE we flipped it around (or back) to the rating of guys. What makes a guy a 10? I honestly don’t even think I care if a guy is a 10. So much for me is based on personality and if we click in terms of interests/conversation. If a guy is drop dead gorgeous/looks like a model, I’m less apt to trust him because my gut is that he knows this.
Here’s my stab at a “10...”
Josh Duhmel. Just basing it on looks alone. He’s quite gorgeous. However, I’ve barely followed his acting career. And get more excited about movies with say... Vince Vaughn or John Krasinski...than his latest work.
All things to think about. Are OhMyHeart and I on the right track? What’s your idea of a “10?” You readers have to have thoughts. Let’s hear ‘em!
3 comments:
:) Basically numbers is just a metaphor for physical attractiveness - and as you said, physical attractiveness is only one baby part of the overall attractiveness equation, plus beauty is very much in the eye's of the beholder.
Numbers don't make sense to me. I guess on a personal level, you can use them as a comparison guide. But otherwise, they don't work for a universal guide. One person's "5" could be someone else's "10." Like, to a lot of women, Brad Pitt is a 10. Personally, he's more like a 4 to me. (Sorry, but he looks like a monkey. That's weird.) So everyone has different tastes, which is evident in this blog when we all named our top celebrity crushes.* I definitely go along with the belief that you're most attracted to people of the same attractive level as you though. And why do people insist on asking questions like, "what would you rate me?" Sure, sometimes those questions cross our mind, but you shouldn't actually ask them.
* John Krasinski/Jim Halpert seems to be impervious to this scale though, as every girl I know rates him at the top of the number scale.
Fancy is right - shit, I think Jim Halpert is awesome.
This is totally a 'guys are from mars, girls are from wherever'.
Think of it this way: If you ask a guy what is favorite movie is, he will have an answer for you in 2 seconds. (Old School) But, ask a girl and she'll say "Well, that depends, favorite comedy, favorite romantic movie, it depends on who is in it....etc"
Guys have a much easier time compartmentalizing stuff like that.
BTW - both Jessica Simpson and Katherine Zeta Jones get 10s in my book. Except when Jessica was wearing those mom jeans. WTF?!
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